Sunday, October 29, 2017

Choosing A Marriage That Matters: "Selfishness Versus Selflessness"

“Selfishness Versus Selflessness”

            Do you know the key to a great sex life with your spouse?  You should!  Guess what, the same key that makes your sex life great is the key that makes your marriage great.  Here it is- Seek to please the other person!-  Ultimately this is the key to a marriage that matters, but there is one small exception.  If pleasing your spouse violates a command from scripture choose Scripture, otherwise go with seeking to please the other person (spouse).

            As we continue to look at keys to Choosing Marriage that Matters, this week we come upon the principle that couples who have marriages that matter habitually choose selflessness over selfishness.  You are probably familiar with the Biblical teaching in Ephesians 5.  The jist of it is “husbands love your wives as Christ loves the church and wives submit to your husbands as unto the Lord.”  What does that mean?  Well, I contend that the explanation of that passage is most clearly understood in another letter that Paul wrote.  We find in Philippians 2 the key. 

Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.  Philippians 2:3-4

           
This plays itself out in dozens of ways each day in your marriage.  Who bathes the kids?  Who takes out the garbage?  Who fills the car up with gas?  Who pays the bills?  You get the point.  There are literally dozens and dozens of choices every day where you can choose to serve yourself and your own interest or you can choose to seek to please the other person and ultimately God by dying to yourself.  Couples that are able to habitually choose selflessness over selfishness experience much greater satisfaction and joy in life and marriage than those who are self-serving.

My challenge to you today is to consciously choose to seek to please your spouse.  You will honor the Lord and be blessed as you do.

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